Communication is essential in a strong relationship, but how many of us have spent time with our significant other just to realize not much has really been said? There is a lot of trivial conversation in the day to day living, so here are ten deeper questions that every couple should take the time to ask one another.
1. What would constitute a perfect day for you?
This open-ended question is an amazing way to learn more about what your partner truly values and how they prioritize their own time.
2. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
This is a good question for anyone to ask themselves from time to time, but it’s great to hear your partner’s considerations and gratitude as well. You may be surprised to hear what they really appreciate!
3. Why Didn’t Your Last Relationship Work Out?
If one or both of you have a dating past, which is relatively likely, this question is an important means of introspection and growth. It may feel uncomfortable at times, but being able to be honest about what happened in the past can enable you both to grow stronger in the future.
4. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? What’s stopping you?
This is a twofer. Not only can this be a great way to get some date ideas or future goals to work towards together, but it can also be a fascinating look into a side of your partner they may not voice too often.
5. How do you handle pressure?
Be it stress, conflict, or confrontation, knowing how your loved one operates when things hit the fans is very important. If you know that they tend to shut down and need their space, this can help you not feel shunned or hurt if they take some time to themselves. Likewise, if you need more transparent communication, this discussion can help them work to meet your needs as well.
6. What does love look like to you?
Knowing what your loved one expects in terms of showing love and affection is really important, especially since most people express themselves differently. Learning how to best show your love starts with understanding what the other person is looking for.
7. Is there anything you consider absolutely unforgivable?
While it is easy to think that everyone has the same ideals as you do, that isn’t always the case. There are things that constitute major deal breakers to some people that don’t even pop up on others’ radar. This is a good question to make sure you’re both on the same page going forward.
8. What does the future look like to you?
The future can be a scary thing to think about, but it’s important to know what your partner is dreaming of building towards. If you’re expecting to settle down with kids but they’re looking forward to a life of travel and exploration, you may have some chatting to do. Better to know and solve now than to find out years down the line!
9. If you could change one thing about our relationship what would it be?
This doesn’t have to be treated as a negative. In fact, this is a very constructive question! Maybe you’ll find out your significant other wishes you’d be a little more physically affectionate, or perhaps you want to bring up that you’d like to go out on more dates together.
10. What’s your favorite memory of us?
You’d be surprised what memories can stick out in someone else’s mind. Not only are these trips down memory lane sweet, it can be a lot of fun to hear just what stuck out to your partner.