Sometimes single parenting cannot be avoided for various personal reasons. Raising a child on your own is commendable, however, it is a journey filled with challenges and decisions that couples rarely face. There are particular problems that only single parents experience and making the right calls when bringing up a child can be extremely stressful. With that being said, let’s take a look at the negative aspects of raising a child on your own and solutions that might make life a bit easier.
1. Financial problems
In many cases, single parents are forced to work more than 40 hours a week in order to support themselves and their child or children. All this work comes on top of the regular household problems and child-raising. This can be a stressful situation for the parent, as well as the child because it can involve various restrictions due to the tight budget. The child may have to let go of certain childhood experiences due to these financial issues.
2. Parenting quality
Between a job, household work, and financial problems you might not find the time to dedicate enough time to your children. With so many responsibilities on your shoulders, you might have to miss out on key events at home or at school. This can affect a child due to its natural need for affection and attention. It’s even worse if you don’t have a family member or a babysitter to help you out while you’re not home. If that’s the case, make sure to find just a bit of time to discuss some of these things with your child.
3. Emotional Issues
Single parent children often have relationship problems during adulthood because of self-esteem issues that stem from childhood. Children can lack relationship expectations because they experienced a lack of affection due to your busy work schedule. Many of them end up blaming themselves for the situation and fail to acknowledge their own worth in society.
Not all is lost though! Here are a few things you can do to ease such a situation:
Setting up a routine that maximizes time with your child is crucial. You don’t have to be there all the time, but you need to offer consistency. Make sure meals are always served at the same time and wake up as well as bedtime are always set. Routine offers security to children, and even if you can’t always be there, make sure the essentials are set in stone.
2. Take care of yourself
Children see when you are angry and they often blame themselves for your problems. Always make sure the child understands that it’s not your fault. Work on how you express yourself and show affection.
There’s no denying you love your child, however, you also need to know how to display it properly. If you have little time due to work, make the most of every moment. Talk about hobbies and interests, and even participate. Dedicate someone on one time on a daily basis. Even 10 minutes of talking or playing a game together are enough to make a difference. And if your schedule truly is limited, at the very least smile and try to look happy about life whenever you interact.3 comments