Today, everyone seems to be looking for that “drama-free” relationship, and that’s fine. Having a partner who accepts you for who you are can be a beautiful thing. And better still is having a partner you don’t fear that they will cheat whenever the opportunity arises or that you need to keep secrets. But, for some people, having some drama in all areas of their life—including their relationship is what makes them alive. Here’s why:
1. Drama may not be as Bad as you think
Craving some drama is not about making your life explosive. For some, it could mean just making things a little more interesting. Drama does not have to involve the breaking of trust or negative fighting— it can sometimes be sexy.
2. Always Know When To Say Sorry
Sometimes things can get out of control. Some competitions and arguments might not end so well, like throwing something across your apartment out of frustrations. When drama gets out of control, it is important that you both know when to step back. Know your partner enough to recognize those moments feelings have been hurt and be ready to say sorry.
3. The Fun Part Is Making Up After A Fight
Fighting with your partner might be thrilling, but making up after the fight is twice the fun. Makeup sex can be the most passionate and enjoyable sex with your partner. At that moment, you’ll be so grateful to have that special someone in your life, and at the same time, you’re so sorry for the fight you’ve just had.
4. Minor Fights Can Help Change The Pace
Having some minor fights with your partner may not be a bad thing besides, it is exciting. After being with someone for a long time, we can sometimes become complacent and does not mean that you go picking a fight over petty issues, not at all. Also, try not to engage in things that will put apart your healthy relationship just because you were craving the thrills of an argument.
5. Even Having A Friendly Debate Brings Some Healthy Drama
Having a friendly debate with your partner can be a good thing for your relationship. You could, for instance, make small bets on how a sports game will play out or even have a healthy back-and-forth about some of the movies either of you hates or loves, which can be a great way to learn to fight fair in your relationship. Besides, you will come to appreciate your partner’s point of view and opinions on a particular subject.
6. Something Good For Those Who Are Competitive
You and your partner can compete against each other whether it’s in board games, bets, or basketball games and there’s nothing wrong with that. It is only a physical manifestation of any friendly debate you’d have with your partner. The key here is knowing to respect each others feeling and not to let a game get out of control.
7. Provoking A Mean, Personal Fight Is Bad For Your Relationship
It’s one thing to get into a little sparring match, but intentionally causing nasty fights can affect your relationship very negatively. Avoid bringing up any negative stuff from your partner past just to get their blood pumping. That’s not fighting fair and it can gradually put a rift between you and your partner, bringing in some negative energy into your relationship.
8. A Little Jealousy Won’t Hurt
That said, having a small amount of jealousy in your relationship could be healthy. For example, when you see your spouse flirting at the bar with a gorgeous blonde, even though you trust your partner, it won’t hurt to show a little jealousy. Seeing someone express interest in your partner can affect you in different ways and its ok to let it show.
9. Some Healthy Flirting Isn’t Always Wrong
Being in a long-term relationship comes with its own set of ‘rules,’ and for some, they are clear on what their partner likes and doesn’t like but engaging in some harmless flirting may not always be bad for your relationship. But, first be sure that you share the same sentiments with your partner when it concerns flirting with anyone else. The catch here is knowing when far is far is enough. Though for some, this might not be their cup of tea, there are those that get a kick from this sort of drama in their relationship. Just keep in mind that you are already in a relationship with your partner. And make sure you know and understand what your relationship means to the two of you. Have a chat together about it.
10. That “Jealousy Sex” Can Be Incredible
Getting intimate with your partner after a fight can be amazing, but sex after watching your partner flirt with someone else can be INCREDIBLE. The relationship is about the two of you and whatever brings in drama to it, can only work for those involved. Always make sure you have a talk on this with your spouse.
In conclusion, we all crave different things in relationships. Having a drama-free relationship may not work for everyone. But even then, both partners need to know what works for them and the kind of drama that they can handle. And above all respect and keep your partner’s feelings in mind at all times.